A CONVERSATION ON A COFFEE BREAK!

A midday conversation:

FRIEND: I want to ask your opinion regarding a situation where things made me feel so uncomfortable.

ME: Regarding what?

FRIEND:About many things. I just needed someone to listen to me and will give me an honest opinion, and I want you to do that to me before I can make decisions.

(WE barely knew each other just a span of 6 months, and this made me grateful ,for whatever reasons she told me why she chose me , THANK YOU. . )

These may be simple things for some people or would say WHY MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT?..Yes, i make a big deal out of this because I treasure friendship, true friendship................

(I took the above pic inside our hotel room in san francisco, my hubby enjoyed brewing starbucks coffee...)

GRATEFUL FOR A FRIEND!

I happened to read a blog and what surprised me is that it is a blog of a friend way back in highschool..a close friend so to say. .There was an entry that made me cry (here i am again). Because I never expected that she dedicated that blog for me..For people,close friends who knew me very well, well enough that they know for a fact that incidence like this really will make me cry. You make my day FRIEND C. . Thank you ,too.....(you know what i mean)...I will post some of our pics as soon as i will got hold of it in PI....just to reminisce our friendship.

I am very happy with what you have become now. I am so proud of you! I hope someday you will take a portrait of my family. This is one of my wishlist!..God bless you friend and your family!More blessings to come.....

(Just me pic above, my hubby made fun of me and let me pose....so pose na rin ako. hehe!...)

A CYBER BLOGGER/FRIEND

I was surprised yesterday because i received an email from a regular reader of my blog all the way from Australia and she also included a link for me to read her blogs , no one is allowed to read her blog but only on invitation.. According to her she happened to read my blog when she typed in on blogs about friendship, family and marriage and my blog are one of those entries that popped up. She said she might not understand some of my words if i used some Filipino words but the thing is she loves the thought that some people including me shares the same views about so many things even if we are far apart and miles miles away from each other.

I would like to thank you my new cyber friend for all the kind words and constructive criticisms you gave me and for spending time in reading my blogs. My blogs are the reflections of what I believed in and of what i feel in the many moments of my life, as a mother, daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend and as anybody in this world. THANK YOU. You know who you are. God bless you always!

Picture above(myself at staples center)..

STAPLES EXPERIENCE PART 2

............I cannot help but share the experience of cheering as a group (reminds me of my highschool and college days)..we just went with the flow and if it happens that you heard some shouting and cheering in this particular game,,well well well,, we were part of it....nice one..even if they lost, the fun that we had was AMAZING..according to our son, PAPA AND MAMA NEXT TIME IF WE WILL WATCH THE LA LAKERS GAME, CAN WE HAVE A SEAT AT THE FRONT SO THAT WE COULD BE SEEN IN THE WIDE SCREEN AND WAVE.hehehe...(note to hubby: SAVE FOR IT LOVEY!).......

A STAPLES EXPERIENCE PART 1

After attending mass last Sunday, my hubby decided to watch an LA CLIPPERS game at staples for the first time. Since it was his day off, we convinced our son (of course with a deal hehe) then off we went. It's realizing a childhood dream to get inside the staples and watch the NBA teams playing. Although he is an LA Lakers fan, he decided to push through just to be able to experience the inside fun and soon with the LA LAkers , praying for a day off if they have a game. . He just booked at the ticket exchange because the tickets are at a cheaper price..but far from the court hehe. anyway, just for fun and experience. . INDEED WE HAD FUN!

We were like small kids giggling inside the staples center and even our son had a blast taking pictures of the performers hehe.Call us "mababaw na kaligayahan'(shallow happiness), but this means a big thing to us. I think we deserve a much needed break as a family from time to time, no pressures of preparations, just the moment that we have each other experiencing all the opportunities that comes our way and soon sharing the same experience with our family back home,,,,,SOON....Thanks God for this time and experience.

Thoughts on the Homily by Fr. Gomez,SVD

I forgot to make a blog entry regarding Fr. Gomez' homily last Sunday TV mass regarding the triumphant entry of Jesus in Jerusalem (Palm Sunday)..He said "these people who praise Jesus in his entry to Jerusalem are the same people who condemn HIM to crucifixion and death....just like some of your friends who are good upfront and stab you at your back. Beware!....

Yes it happened to me..From my past blogs, as I always say i am a very unguarded person when it comes to meeting people, i readily consider anybody whom I talked to(especially emotional things and that person will also tell me about many things) as a new found friend..BUT i learned my lesson already, a lesson that really hurts me.. WHY? because i told myself to be laid back a little when it comes to open up of things that concerns my thoughts to certain issues and be able to share it to whom i considered FRIENDS...It's just very difficult to put into words how hurt i am if i hear some so called friends who will question my or other person's sincerity, as a friend and as a person..I don't know what their motives are but I know in time, they will realize that they are wrong and that I pray that the times they spent calling on persons and initiate a gossip to whoever they want to will stop and just be happy with what their friends are achieving..Yes, we cannot please everybody but if that somebody did not do anything wrong to you, why make a big fuss to the smallest mistake that your friend has done?.Look into the mirror and ask yourself, AM I PERFECT?

I shared these thoughts and experience with my husband and he felt the same thing..And to my close friends whom I share the same experience and the same wavelengths of thoughts and priorities.Sometimes i get so affected specially if there is no basis at all..But God is good. These are just little things compared to the big problems that other people are facing nowadays. What I just want to give emphasis is that it's not a hard thing to do to praise and appreciate the success a person has achieved and stop crab mentality. Even if you know me, You don't Know EVERYTHING ABOUT ME..I am just a very simple person, with simple dreams for myself, family and other people that I would like to help. But if my simplicity is not your cup of tea because I cannot fit into your complex and high end life, please just also respect me the same thing that I gave my respect to your kind of life..Thank you.

Holy Week 2010

Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways,my ways, declares the Lord."

(above photo with my father and son moment at our favorite park)

The Blind Side

Last night was our family movie night. We should not have rented this one but out of curiosity with the read news about Sandra Bullock's performance which made her the best actress of the OSCARS and with all the overwhelming true to life stories, then off we go, WATCH THIS DVD!

I thought i will get bored because i like action, suspense movies if we talk about foreign movies. But in Filipino movies, I am much more into drama, romance,,,,BUT this movie hits the very core of me as a mother and as a person. Surprisingly, I did not get bore from the very beginning up to the last segment and even cried. Even my hubby liked it so much!

How a simple gesture of love and concern can make a big difference in someone else' life. Despite the status Sandra has in this movie, a millionaire so to say, a respected elite in the society,that gut instinct to put trust and help BIG MIKE ,trying to understand in her own way of interrogating, wowed me.. BRAVO TO ALL WHO MADE THIS MOVIE POSSIBLE!

Different issues were called up in this movie, racial discrimination is one. How a teacher's faith and patience in their students can make a big impact in student's life. And I could relate to this specially when I was teaching in highschool back in PI. A family's faith on each other, love for each other really is the core of being true samaritans in the society .These were all depicted in the movie.

A mother's love is a very magical kind of love, even if oftenly not said but will always be felt. A love that is so unconditional, a sacrifice that has no other person can make but only mothers will. These all made me cry. I am looking forward for that day that our son will go to college and maybe will make the same remarks like what Sandra did(I guess all mothers will agree).And this segment made me sob, OH the very emotional me! And my son tapped me at the back telling me MA , I WILL NOT LEAVE YOU AND PAPA WHEN I STUDY COLLEGE. THERE IS A COLLEGE NEAR OUR PLACE AND THAT'S ENOUGH FOR ME. and I sob again. Haay! this is just me, so sentimental..

WATCH this if you haven't seen it yet!

Pray like a child

As written in the bible,PRAY LIKE A CHILD..children just have simple dreams,appreciate with a big smile on their faces which we thought little things but considered very big to them..

As I always believe in, GOD knows the desires of my heart. And I always believe that if we will pray like a child with a pure heart, all our wishes will be granted in HIS own time. Amen....


Note: Photo above is our son inside a very nice church in San Francisco..

Time for fun!

WE really treasure our family time together..Yes, its priceless and will always be cherished for as long as we live. Thanks God for this opportunity!

Our boy!

Just went through some pics this early Sunday morning while waiting for my father and son to get up to attend mass(hubbys off weekend),i've come to run through some pics of our son ready for school.As I went through his past pics from nursery and kindergarten, i became so emotional(as usual), He has grown so much and matured so much. He is our source of love and inspiration and never ceases to make us proud. He might be naughty sometimes but boys will always be boys so to say. Our goal is to make him lost 10 lbs of weight. A bigboned boy as what his past doctor once said..Jesus please guide him always and Mama Mary embrace him always from harm with your loving arms.

Post birthday greeting!

( Above pic is just a stolen shot, no flash at a dinner date nga suway suway, try try lang sa resto,but iba parin ang pinoy.! hehehe)

Due to many things that happened these past few days, I wasn't able to update my blogging world..I missed to enter a special blog for a special person. He celebrated his birthday just recently. It was a sort of a mixed birthday emotions because we had a spat related to the recent blog that I posted. Anyway, we still had a belated birthday celebration and a very memorable at that because our relationship and our family has been blessed with so many unexpected blessings. Making us realize that God allows things to happen to let us realize that amidst the crisis that is happening in this world right now, HE did not give us that feeling of burden and for these we are continually grateful..

Another year of added wisdom and maturity, another year of so much instored experience, another year of so much blessings to share, another year of spending most treasured times with family and more more happy memories to cherish. Be safe always PARTS and do not forget to pray! God bless you more!

Rainy Days

Pic above is a scene outside our apartment during the past stormy and rainy days that hits Southern California. . And while typing this blog, it is raining outside...My mag -ama(father and son) are sound asleep while me?,,enjoying the scenery outside,how i wish i have that most yearned camera so that i could vividly take pictures and make them come to life. someday....

Today is supposed to be our schedule for our yearly snow resort visit but because of the impending strom, maybe we would do it again at a later date ..

Thank you Lord for the rain, i hope that this would not bring too much devastation to the flooded areas stricken by the wildfire..Please make us all safe always!

Learned to enjoy and love this!

I am not a very techie person,,Just a simple text and call,,it's enough for me..But my hubby wanted to upgrade my cellphone with our provider T-MOBILE,,with their ipodtouch mobile version..At first I am not interested with it , my friend laughed at me,,SUS GRABEHA POD NIMO KA SIMPLE OY,,BILIB NAGYUD KO NIMO, GEHONGITAN NA, hehehe,,SO i did. After getting hold of it,,upon knowing the features, there is something within me that was awakened..I LOVE TOUCH MOBILE(version of Ipodtouch of ATT provider)!!!!!....It is a big help especially during travel and etc etc etc,,Call me a late bloomer, or nauwahe sa uso,,cause I am,,,i won't deny it,,it's just for me,,i want to take things one step at a time and will not force myself to have it just for the sake of having it and it's what other people are using,,,,maybe the moment has come , and it's my moment,hehehe drama...anyway, my hubby told me,,(SECRET)...with matching kiss...thanks hubby....kaming duha mga shallow ang happiness,,,maong swak me,heheh,,mag LQ,,solve pod,,hehe ....AGAIN,THAT'S HOW LIFE GOES...

Looking forward!

I considered this day as bfgf day..why?...it's so funny feeling like a steady date during our first year as bfgf days.hehe..Guilty perhaps?(just thinking ) and tried to teased him..But he is so serious which made me guilty of teasing him..I thanked God because he is more open to me in so many things which i thought I know everything about him already and same here wih me. We discovered so many things from our talk,,Would i be thankful that a spat happened just to go to this level?maybe there is a purpose...Only the two of us know the reasons why it happened,and we will try our best to bury it and looking forward to a more sweeter life ahead of us with our son..We are planning to add one in our family but hopefully it will be realized after we will take our vacation in PI soon...Everything comes at the right time, right moment in our life, emotionally and financially , i think we are ready to have one...WE just have to wait and see....At least both of us have the same goals, priorities and vision in life,by God's grace....

WHAT HE TOLD ME!

When we had a spat recently, it's my personality not to talk and discuss with him in the middle of my anger and hurt, because i believe that if you will say things when you are angry, sometimes you don't mean it and will sound very crushing to the heart. . Well, its just my opinion and it works with us..It took 3 days not talking to him , thats how much hurt i was. Little did i know that he has not been sleeping well and i observed that he lost weight. i never took care of him as he usually received everyday from work..what i had in mind is just to take good care of my son. .He texted me and called me but never answered. I want him to learn and feel that i was really hurt. . When i saw the efforts he had done to win me back(with the help of our son), slowly the forgiveness takes place and the chance to talk sets in, i told him everything and he cried. When it was his turn to say his part, i also cried..he told me.." I THOUGHT I ALMOST LOST YOU..I MISS YOU (ek,ek ek hehehe)..ETC ETC...well well well,,,,things has been said and done, whats more important is that at the end of the day, we talked, we forgave each other and we vow to be strong amidst temptations and challenges...making us stronger than ever...YES, drama happens everyday in marriage,like in movies,,so to say,,,but then again,,,,THATS HOW LIFE GOES...

CONSTANT NURTURING!

Years of being together is not a guarantee that marriage will last....a lesson i have learned in 11 years of marriage plus 5 years of bfgf days....When I was younger then,sometimes if i see and hear about annulment, divorce, i asked myself, WHY DO THEY HAVE TO DO THAT?WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN? DON'T THEY HAVE LOVE ANYMORE? etc etc....i was quite judgemental then....But i admit it that i was wrong, i maybe be a marriage advocate but things do take place in an unexpected situations why married couples will end up with separation...This i discuss with my hubby..sometimes when a woman gave it all, never expecting to be done in return but needed to be nurtured, appreciated,just like the days when your man will try to win your heart...these sometimes causes the marriage or relationship to end..men sometimes forgot their roles as a participant of a relationship. There is no formula on how to keep a solid marriage but if the 2 of you knows how to do your part as a taker and giver of everything,,then things will work out fine..i maybe talking on a womans point of view but this is reality..CONSTANT NURTURING is needed so that marriage and relationship will not wither then die..It takes efforts to do it,,prayers...and a constant conviction to let it work..and each one of you should know it ..NEVER TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED..STILL BE THE BEST OF FRIENDS, so that if spat will happen, both can talk it out as friends and knows how to patch things out..

I cannot blame people who will resort into separation, maybe one is exhausted already , emotionally drained and deserves a much needed nurture and love..maybe several decisions were taken into considerations before having that last resort especially the children..i just hope and pray that after their annulment , there would be no regrets, and the bitterness to each other will be gone and continue to move on with life..yes these things are easy to say than done but this is reality.

HURTS And PAINS are parts and parcels of getting into a marriage, a commitment that should be taken by heart, with much responsibility and vow to make it work in any given situations and demands..

Inspite of and despite of what happened recently in our relationship, i am still thankful because my hubby knows the VERY ME...so much so that i know the VERY HIM..we had to update everything about us and hopefully things will work out fine..yes, there are still challenges along the way but whats more important is that we know where we stand and we know that we respect and love each other very much..

Through it all!

Through it all,,,,everybody deserves a second chance..(always a second chance just like what MR. BOY ABUNDA says)....It was so funny because i overheard my son talking to his papa a night before the dramatic 'harana'(serenade) happens which goes like this...PAPA THATS HOW IT GOES..YOU HURT MAMA, YOU HAVE TO WIN HER BACK..BUY HER FLOWERS AND STUFF JUST LIKE IN MOVIES..C'MMON PAPA I KNOW YOU KNOW HOW TO DO IT...DON'T YOU KNOW IT BOTHERS ME TO SEE MAMA CRY IN THE ROOM AND THE TWO OF YOU ARE NOT TALKING?... I KNOW THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG EVEN YOU WILL NOT TELL ME...i told myself..GOD THANK YOU FOR OUR SON,,(my angel),,it's just that matrimonial spat do happens even if you will tell yourself you can handle it...at the end of the day, it will always be our family to go to and we only have each other to care and love for...and as what our son said,,THAT'S HOW IT GOES............he sounds so mature....love you son!

TRIPLE A FOR EFFORT!

Yes, we had a spat....but through his efforts and with special participation of our son,,,everything turned out fine and problems were solved.....plenty of flowers , foods ,tears, laughters and COACH BAGS HEHEH...PLUS PRAYERS...thank you,,,,,

I love this album!

His songs soothes the deepest part of my emotions at this very moment......specially this album,,,,,Thank you Christian!