AN EMAIL, AN APOLOGY FROM A FRIEND,FORGIVENESS

An email from a long time friend surprised me this evening..I cried,yes, she knew me that well that made me so hurt when I knew about everything. She was able to read my blogs(don't know how because I don't even post in my socialnetworking account that I do have one.). She said sorry and she missed me so much. I do also. She stated reasons, and i would just like to say thank you.I acknowledge your apology and I already forgave you long before you said sorry. We just have to remember all the happy memories of our friendship. Life is too short, we might as well make the most out of it.Be happy always!If you happen to read this one, to quote what you sent me".......because they saw you so contented and happy with your simplicity and that maybe irritates them because you don't entertain their thoughts of always longing for more....etc"....Friend L...thank you..and yes, you really knew me very well.

(pic above our son in one of our visits at universal studios california)

An email

I received another email from a regular reader of my blog(this really surprise me) from HongKong. She is an American but based in HongKong working in a popular company. She told me that during her freetime and if she feels so sad , she sees to it to read blogs about many things that concerns relationships, family and other aspects that concerns the reality of life.. She included my site as a regular blogsite which she follows. She also linked me to her blog..She told me that she was also surprise reading my blogs because she sees herself in me in dealing with things and in some situations. As I read her blogs, I got awed also because I can also see myself in her blog features and opinions about many things. . Thanks Ms. Gee for this opportunity knowing you and for reaching out to me. We know that this started of as a hobby but the gratification that we felt is priceless... Again thanks .

(pic above our son in Sea World)

AN OPINION, A CONVICTION

A friend asked me if i was able to experience a situation wherein, FRIENDS will say something about you , and hurts you, and will appear as if so good on you, and you will hear from other people what they said about you. Having in mind that what they told to your other friends will not relay the message to you(gossip)..I just answered her with a smile and with this statement,,,,WHO WILL NOT BE HURT?But I told her,,,I have my own way of giving them a silent realization that they have met a wrong person to gossip on because I have with me my support system who knows the very me. I am no perfect individual, I commit mistakes but i will not just tolerate those people who have nothing to do in life but demoralizing other people's existence..I am sorry to tell you that I do have that instinct and gift of persons that if you do something bad and said something not true to me, the news will reach me in anyway. But you will not hear anything bad from me against you because I am praying for you...

And she asked me, what do I usually do?,,,,I answered her,," I detached myself from them,, as what I have said from my previous blog, I am not a confrontational person. I'd rather keep silent about my hurts about what I have heard ..I do not want pinpointing of who originally made that kind of gossip because I believe , they will keep on pinpointing other persons and no one will take responsibility of whose who...?If you will ask for my opinion ,I will give it to you,,,If you will just want me to listen, you will not hear any words from me....If you are my friend, I will always be your friend..That's my conviction..

She smiled.....and embraced me...and she cried....I asked her why?...she said "that's why i am proud to be your friend..." and that's enough for me....Yes, all of us are allowed to be hurt..Am I hurt right now?...Yes, I am..To whom? To some I considered friends but really stabbed me at the back...I will wait for sometime lo let this hurt be gone..It's just so difficult to stay the way I am when i am with them when I know for a fact they misjudge me.I do not want to call myself plastic so to say. When I am hurt , it really shows in my face . I'd rather do away from them than forcing myself that everything is ok when I am with them. I did not do anything wrong to them.. I am just living my life, a simple life here with my family..And it's so painful knowing those no basis news. Maybe, the material things changed them, the way they view life and the way they treat their friends according to what they considered acceptable to them. That's why I am so hurt. ..BUT we are allowed also to be healed..This will heal in time....Yes, in time....

(pic above our son at the park)

THANKS TO MS. L FROM CANADA

A few minutes ago, i received an email from Ms. L of Canada and linked me to her blog site. Thank you Ms. L for taking time emailing me and acknowledging my views about certain things in life . I was caught really by surprise knowing someone out there agreed to what I believed in and giving me insights in similar topics that we got interested in. You just don't know how deeply I appreciated the time and the invitation of reading your wonderful site! God bless you!

(ME pic above while doing house hunting ,i just love the kitchen!)

A CONVERSATION ON A COFFEE BREAK!

A midday conversation:

FRIEND: I want to ask your opinion regarding a situation where things made me feel so uncomfortable.

ME: Regarding what?

FRIEND:About many things. I just needed someone to listen to me and will give me an honest opinion, and I want you to do that to me before I can make decisions.

(WE barely knew each other just a span of 6 months, and this made me grateful ,for whatever reasons she told me why she chose me , THANK YOU. . )

These may be simple things for some people or would say WHY MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT?..Yes, i make a big deal out of this because I treasure friendship, true friendship................

(I took the above pic inside our hotel room in san francisco, my hubby enjoyed brewing starbucks coffee...)

GRATEFUL FOR A FRIEND!

I happened to read a blog and what surprised me is that it is a blog of a friend way back in highschool..a close friend so to say. .There was an entry that made me cry (here i am again). Because I never expected that she dedicated that blog for me..For people,close friends who knew me very well, well enough that they know for a fact that incidence like this really will make me cry. You make my day FRIEND C. . Thank you ,too.....(you know what i mean)...I will post some of our pics as soon as i will got hold of it in PI....just to reminisce our friendship.

I am very happy with what you have become now. I am so proud of you! I hope someday you will take a portrait of my family. This is one of my wishlist!..God bless you friend and your family!More blessings to come.....

(Just me pic above, my hubby made fun of me and let me pose....so pose na rin ako. hehe!...)

A CYBER BLOGGER/FRIEND

I was surprised yesterday because i received an email from a regular reader of my blog all the way from Australia and she also included a link for me to read her blogs , no one is allowed to read her blog but only on invitation.. According to her she happened to read my blog when she typed in on blogs about friendship, family and marriage and my blog are one of those entries that popped up. She said she might not understand some of my words if i used some Filipino words but the thing is she loves the thought that some people including me shares the same views about so many things even if we are far apart and miles miles away from each other.

I would like to thank you my new cyber friend for all the kind words and constructive criticisms you gave me and for spending time in reading my blogs. My blogs are the reflections of what I believed in and of what i feel in the many moments of my life, as a mother, daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend and as anybody in this world. THANK YOU. You know who you are. God bless you always!

Picture above(myself at staples center)..

Thoughts on the Homily by Fr. Gomez,SVD

I forgot to make a blog entry regarding Fr. Gomez' homily last Sunday TV mass regarding the triumphant entry of Jesus in Jerusalem (Palm Sunday)..He said "these people who praise Jesus in his entry to Jerusalem are the same people who condemn HIM to crucifixion and death....just like some of your friends who are good upfront and stab you at your back. Beware!....

Yes it happened to me..From my past blogs, as I always say i am a very unguarded person when it comes to meeting people, i readily consider anybody whom I talked to(especially emotional things and that person will also tell me about many things) as a new found friend..BUT i learned my lesson already, a lesson that really hurts me.. WHY? because i told myself to be laid back a little when it comes to open up of things that concerns my thoughts to certain issues and be able to share it to whom i considered FRIENDS...It's just very difficult to put into words how hurt i am if i hear some so called friends who will question my or other person's sincerity, as a friend and as a person..I don't know what their motives are but I know in time, they will realize that they are wrong and that I pray that the times they spent calling on persons and initiate a gossip to whoever they want to will stop and just be happy with what their friends are achieving..Yes, we cannot please everybody but if that somebody did not do anything wrong to you, why make a big fuss to the smallest mistake that your friend has done?.Look into the mirror and ask yourself, AM I PERFECT?

I shared these thoughts and experience with my husband and he felt the same thing..And to my close friends whom I share the same experience and the same wavelengths of thoughts and priorities.Sometimes i get so affected specially if there is no basis at all..But God is good. These are just little things compared to the big problems that other people are facing nowadays. What I just want to give emphasis is that it's not a hard thing to do to praise and appreciate the success a person has achieved and stop crab mentality. Even if you know me, You don't Know EVERYTHING ABOUT ME..I am just a very simple person, with simple dreams for myself, family and other people that I would like to help. But if my simplicity is not your cup of tea because I cannot fit into your complex and high end life, please just also respect me the same thing that I gave my respect to your kind of life..Thank you.

UMAGANG KAY GANDA(WHAT A BEAUTIFUL MORNING)

(beautiful morning with mother and son at sea world san diego while waiting for our ride)

If i don't have any appointment every morning and if it would fit in with my schedule, I will see to it that I will watch TFC programs and morning news ' UMAGANG KAY GANDA !..today,the topic for discussion that I find very interesting is the word war between two senators, defending each others integrity, giving their knowledge about so many things, pinpointing persons on some critical issues.. and the bottomline for this is that, the issue of friendship and loyalty. Let us just put the issues aside, and might as well focus on how these things happened anyway?...according to one of the anchors of the show, this has something to do with betrayal, friendship, loyalty, getting ones' benefits from a friends' too much goodness...Yes, we just have to accept the fact that even your so called friends are not happy of what you have become, of what you have achieved and sometimes belittle you and insists that they are far better than you and anybody. One writer said, "those people who are so aggressive in saying bad things to people or do things to destroy the reputations of other people, are those who have nothing in life to hold on to and so insecure in so many ways" .....I have many lessons learned in friendship, and these lessons helped me grow as a person , who the persons to trust and who the persons that will stay with you through thick and thin.. Sometimes if similar situations do happen like statements made by so and so...I just dont mind it, i maybe cry but just let things passed, some people know me well are the ones affected because I will never fight back. I mean what for?.Let time be the judge because these people will in anyway show their true colors.I know that there is a supreme being that has all the last say..It's just that I am confident in myself, on what I am capable and not capable of doing. I do have true friends that know me better even from childhood and I have my family who loves me through thick and thin(literal ba ni? pwede pod hehehe)And I still have a lot of things to care so much about. I just lift it all to God...To everything there is a reason, and whatever reason why they did that, maybe in some other way they will learn lessons from it also, that there are still people in this world that will pray for them rather than cursed them..that it is possible to be happy and contented even if you are just simple ..just be who you are, true friends will love you of who you are..though you can change for the better but never forced yourself to change just because they want you to be what they want you to be.. it's not that difficult to be happy with what your friends have become, so lets just be happy with one another....stop the backbiting and defamatory statements to your friends..Life is too short to be sad and mindful of others..Let us be happy and appreciate the friendship..!

Just Being Loved

(this pic was taken by our son at Ontario,Ca)

I happened to wake up very early dawn at 1:37 to be exact. I usually experienced this specially if I sleep early during the night. My husband and son were still very sound asleep. I did my morning task, making the kitchen tidy, arranging my husband's dvd collection as well as our son's STAR WARS dvd collection,too.... I happened to take a look at newly rented dvds by my husband. I was touched because he rented the NIGHTS IN RODANTHE by Diane Lane and Richard Gere( I love their teamup started with the movie UNFAITHFUL). If I remember it right I always reminded him to rent the dvd because i missed to see it in widescreen. Everytime he rents dvds, he always forgets and sometimes he will give reasons like" SORRY PARTS, THE DVD IS OUT" ...Well, I believed him then. But anyway, I realized this might be one of his surprises he promised last night. They had a father and son bonding last night , that's why I slept while waiting for them playing PS2....Well, well...special thanks to my hubby...........To my excitement, I gave myself a treat,,"I WATCHED IT WILL FULL ENTHUSIASM (like a kid though{hehe)...I enjoyed the silence of the dawn...To make the long story short,,I found myself crying and sobbing to describe it perfectly...I maybe sound so dramatic or sentimental but it's just ME....I may not be in the same situation but the parts and parcels of emotions and realities of life specially nowadays are vividly true. The following are my own realizations after watching the movie(you may agree or disagree):

1) That a wife's happiness is just so simple" TO FEEL JUST BEING LOVED" and BEING APPRECIATED FOR THE SACRIFICES DONE FOR THE FAMILY"

2)For a Marriage to work,IT'S A TWO-WAY THING (NEVER TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED, ALWAYS BE WITH EACH OTHER NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED)

3)Romance should be rekindled everyday not just in moments of ordeal or any problems that might come along during married life.

4)Do not wait for that time to let other person that came along the way fill in that gap or longing of to love and be loved. Do not let Infidelity cross that line of loving .

5)Friendship is a very important factor in a relationship, to have someone to talk to about your feelings , undertakings, and just by accepting you as being the person you first met.

6)A woman's simple dream is to be a good wife and a good mother. That's why Dianne Lane in this movie was hurt so bad because of the betrayal.She thought she did everything right for her family.

7) Talk openly to your kids what's happening if things really won't be in its proper place or things don't happend the way you wanted it to happen...

In ADDITION, LET GOD BE THE CENTER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.....IT ALWAYS WORKS!..Thanks to my hubby for still the same person , from the first time we set eyes on each other...We are partners in so many ways that's why we called each other PARTS as our term of endearment so to say..We are the best of friends...We did have moments of ordeal in our almost 16 years of WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP ANG MARITAL BLISS (including our bf-gf days) but that's how all relationship goes. But what is more important is ,,,,we know best on each others strong points and weak points, and somehow managed to blend it..PRAYERS bond us together sharing the same vision for our son, family and family back home... We just have to HOLD ON....